Salam alikom.i m not a new member but i was an addict to Logan section only ,by chance i passed by this section and read some subjects but decided to read only not to write,but i think i need to share my opinion with u now if u accept me with u, may be it ll do something positve.
U all talk about love the romantic way but from the begining if boys and girls would keep their eyes away from each other as our Holly Koraan said everyone would live in peace till he s ready for marriage then he can try to find a suitable girl to be his wife among the girls around him at work neighbours ...etc.just watch her acts and how she deals with others and with him normally and if he feels ok to her and that that he may be able to love her he can ask about her family.If she s suitable ,pray Estechara then he may propose to her and engagement is made to know each other more,not to be romantic all the time but as a member here said to see how they ll both deal with problems and life afterwards and leave romance till after marriage.
To have a good life u have to have a good neya first and the best thing is to share something to give u both Thawab like visiting and orphanage or helping some poor people ,doing something with places like Resala for sometime,and let our profit Mohamed be your guide to a successful marriage ,read how he used to treat his wives and let ur fiancee read how his wives lived ,Nothing is better than imitating him peace be upon him.
Each partie should think of his duties first not what to gain from the other one and always pray that God will help him or her.Life is too short to live in agony and fighting .Any relationship should be build on respect and understanding and if one is angry or bad tempered the other should wait and better not talk till he calm down.this makes life easier. Sorry for the English.It s easier on the keyboard ,besides i ve no Arabic letters
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